My Life Is Anything but Optimal

My Life Is Anything but Optimal

In Life Mapping, I describe a personal wellness checkpoint called “Optimal Me.” Optimal Me is a list of seven to ten daily, weekly, or bi-monthly consistent, habitual activities that are automatic when we’re functioning on all cylinders.

These activities are specific and unique to each of us. When we’re clipping along in life, we make sure they’re taken care of because they make life easier and more enjoyable. They’re activities, for me, like running the dishwasher before I go to bed, working out regularly, or making sure my checkbook is balanced every week to ten days.

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Dana V. Adams
Toss Yourself a Life Ring

Toss Yourself a Life Ring

It’s nice if someone notices we’re drowning in our own thoughts, but most people won’t. Not even if we’ve placed our innermost dark secret right under someone’s nose. Or, if those closest to us suspect something’s got us down, most won’t know what to say, so they don’t say anything at all.

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Dana V. Adams
My Mom’s Gift Saved My Life

Mental Health America reports only 25% of youth today are treated on a consistent basis for a diagnosable mental illness. There are several factors contributing to this ridiculously low number.

1.       Society’s ongoing stigma around mental health makes it more difficult, even for those who are brave enough, to talk about their challenges.

2.       Kids inaccurately blame themselves for how they feel, and because of the stigma, they may feel shameful about sharing it with an adult.

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Dana V. Adams
Baby, It's Allright to Cry

Baby, It’s Allright to Cry

There’s this thing people do when they’re feeling insecure or self-conscious: They minimize themselves by saying “sorry.”  

Why are you sorry? Because you’re sharing good news? You feel like you’ve talked about yourself longer than you should? Heaven forbid, you started crying? Men and women are equally guilty of apologizing for showing emotion. But why?

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Dana V. Adams
Shame that Keeps You Small

Since making the decision to write my first book, I’ve been a constant observer of my thoughts and actions. I am, as the expression asserts, like a fly on the wall watching my life unfold day by day.

Over the past couple of weeks, I noticed I was stalling on my most recent blog post. In it, I put a voice to the fact I had been on state food assistance for about a year after the real estate market crash of 2008. Even saying it now makes my stomach feel queasy.

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Dana V. Adams
What Are Your Core Values?

I wonder how many of you could rattle off your top five, or even top three, core values.

Why is this important? There are two main reasons why it’s essential to know your core values:

 1. Our core values are at the heart of what intrinsically motivates us. They get us moving every day and drive our sense of purpose. If we don’t know what we’re striving for, life becomes monotonous and unfulfilling.

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Dana V. Adams
What Gets You Up in the Morning?

Values drive our priorities in life and help give us a sense of purpose.  They create a link from who we are fundamentally to what’s up for us this year and currently deserving of our attention. When we’re clear on our values, it’s a lot easier to get out of bed in the morning.

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Dana V. Adams
Do You Have a Personal Playbook?

Last week, we learned why it’s important to know what we believe about why we’re alive by developing a Beliefs List. The next step in living a life aligned with your beliefs is to create a Principles List.

A Principles List is your personal playbook of rules to follow as you travel life’s winding, and often uncertain, road. Principles ground our actions and reactions. They provide a context for making important decisions as you approach forks in the road. Defining your ideal behavior starts by knowing what makes you feel good … and bad.

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Dana V. Adams