Baby, It's Allright to Cry
Shame that Keeps You Small
Baby, It’s Allright to Cry
There’s this thing people do when they’re feeling insecure or self-conscious: They minimize themselves by saying “sorry.”
Why are you sorry? Because you’re sharing good news? You feel like you’ve talked about yourself longer than you should? Heaven forbid, you started crying? Men and women are equally guilty of apologizing for showing emotion. But why?
Would You Have Any Regrets If You Died Tonight?
Since making the decision to write my first book, I’ve been a constant observer of my thoughts and actions. I am, as the expression asserts, like a fly on the wall watching my life unfold day by day.
Over the past couple of weeks, I noticed I was stalling on my most recent blog post. In it, I put a voice to the fact I had been on state food assistance for about a year after the real estate market crash of 2008. Even saying it now makes my stomach feel queasy.
What Are Your Core Values?
I know, it’s not a pleasant thought.
Most of us can reflect on our lives with 20/20 vision. While we may not name our less-than-ideal choices ‘regrets’, most of us would admit we’d probably change some things if we had a do-over.
What Gets You Up in the Morning?
I wonder how many of you could rattle off your top five, or even top three, core values.
Why is this important? There are two main reasons why it’s essential to know your core values:
1. Our core values are at the heart of what intrinsically motivates us. They get us moving every day and drive our sense of purpose. If we don’t know what we’re striving for, life becomes monotonous and unfulfilling.
Do You Have a Personal Playbook?
Values drive our priorities in life and help give us a sense of purpose. They create a link from who we are fundamentally to what’s up for us this year and currently deserving of our attention. When we’re clear on our values, it’s a lot easier to get out of bed in the morning.
Do You Know Why You're Alive?
Last week, we learned why it’s important to know what we believe about why we’re alive by developing a Beliefs List. The next step in living a life aligned with your beliefs is to create a Principles List.
A Principles List is your personal playbook of rules to follow as you travel life’s winding, and often uncertain, road. Principles ground our actions and reactions. They provide a context for making important decisions as you approach forks in the road. Defining your ideal behavior starts by knowing what makes you feel good … and bad.
Three Tips for Discovering Your Gifts
This seems like a simple question at first blush, but what comes to mind when you see it?
Do you know why you’re alive?
Does your mind go blank? Do your eyes dart skyward in search of an answer as your brows furrow and eyelids squint? Maybe you find yourself silently repeating the question internally again… and again… the words whispering in slow motion between your ears, “Whyyyy am I aliiiive?” Thought is halted with a sigh, “Hmmm.”
Finding Your Gifts...
My old dream-killer voice would spit rapid-fire insults at me. “You’re not ready. Dana, your life is messy. Who do you think you are to listen to that voice? You have no time! You are busy enough with a full-time job and four boys. Who would really care about what you have to share?”
It all began…
What does it mean to live an authentic life?
Most people would likely say it is simply staying true to who you are. I would agree—to a point. I would say it is much deeper than just staying true to your beliefs.
For me, living an authentic life is the process of finding the gift you were given, aligning it with your purpose in life—as well as your beliefs, principles, and values—and then living that gift and sharing it with others.
Eighteen years ago. I was desperately searching for the meaning of my life. I’m sure you may have felt that way at one point in your life as well. We all have times when we question why we are here and what we are meant to do with the time we have.
Did I find the meaning of my life 18 years ago? I am happy to say that, yes, I did. Here’s how…